WHAT WE CAN LEARN FROM THE OBAMAS
Strong Marriage Strong Family Series: What we can learn from the Obamas
January 20
by Angela Atkinson, St. Louis Family & Parenting Examiner

"What I realize as I get older is that Michelle is less concerned about me giving her flowers than she is that I'm doing things that are hard for me -- carving out time," Obama said in an Ebony interview, "That to her is proof, evidence that I'm thinking about her. She appreciates the flowers, but to her romance is that I'm actually paying attention to things that she cares about, and time is always an important factor."

As I watched the inauguration of President Barack Obama today with tears in my eyes and a baby on my hip, I noticed how his beautiful wife stood next to him, her eyes never leaving his face.

It would seem that the Obamas have figured out this whole strong marriage thing. As such, and in honor of President Obama's inauguration today, the Strong Marriage, Strong Family series will take its cue from Barack and Michelle's soon to be legendary relationship.

1. Love AND Respect one another. According to author and relationship expert Kathlyn Hendricks, ³Not only does [Barack Obama] love his wife, he respects her. The model of harmony, shared humor and easy communication that the Obamas reveal really is a new model ‹ if ordinary citizens practiced this
each day, our world would transform very quickly in positive directions.²

2. Engage in a little PDA. You don't have to make out on the street corner, but don't be afraid to touch your partner's arm, hold hands, or even sneak a little kiss now and then, especially in situations where its safe to do so. Barack Obama is constantly telling the world that he loves his wife, stealing kisses whenever he can and proclaiming that she is the "love of his life."

3. Make time for one another. I've said it before folks, and I'll say it
again. Take time every day to be a couple. President Obama says that it's one way he shows his wife he loves her.